In response to Covid-19, we have worked hard and fast, along with suicide prevention training company Start the Conversation, to move our training online. The result is Talking about Suicide: Ten Tools, which we are delivering on Zoom regularly throughout summer 2020.
- Live Zoom training (90 minutes) – safe & sensitive
- Unique lockdown-based example conversations
- Learn 10 practical tools to have a conversation that could save a life
- Created & delivered by experienced specialists
- Open to everyone: no prior training needed
- Pay what you can: all profits to Olly’s Future
We are delivering weekly sessions every Wednesday throughout June, July and August 2020.
Please note: we can accept a maximum of two people from each organisation. Please contact us to book a ‘closed’ session for your team or organisation.
Why is this training important?
Talking about suicide is the best form of prevention, but fears can get in the way of us starting a conversation:
- “What if I say the wrong thing?”
- “What if I make things worse?”
- “What if I ask about suicide and put the idea in their head?”
We need to be able to put these misconceptions aside and talk about suicide because:
- Around 1 in 20 people are thinking of suicide at any time. (Samaritans)
- 72% of people who died by suicide had no contact with a health professional in the year before their death. (Mental Health Foundation)
- The emotional impact on those left behind – people bereaved by suicide are 65% more likely to attempt suicide themselves than if their loved on died by natural causes. (SASP 2019)
Suicide prevention training like this is especially relevant and important right now because, of course, we don’t yet know the impact of Covid-19 and the necessary isolation on our collective and individual mental health, and the potential suicides that might result from this situation – not to mention the financial and emotional fallout from it.
Join us online for 90 minutes and learn 10 practical tools to give you the confidence to help someone you are worried about, who might be thinking of suicide. These are skills that can save a life. This training is evidence-based, emotionally-sensitive and ethical. Every consideration has been given to ensure the practical and emotional safety of our attendees.
It’s World Mental Health Day today. Hannah Taaffe, a great friend of Olly’s from UCL, is speaking to students at the University of Law in London about mental health issues, while Ann Feloy and Otis Kirby-Dunkley, who went to Christ Hospital with Oliver, is speaking on their home patch in Worthing.
Earlier in the week, Ann spoke at the first engagement meeting of around 50 pharmacists from across Sussex who play a key role in the community when talking to those who may feel suicidal.
Olly’s Future this week gave a cheque for £2,500 to Hamish Elvidge, Chair of the Support After Suicide Partnership, at its AGM at the CALM offices, Waterloo. We are very pleased to be working in partnership with this organisation to support those bereaved through suicide and to bring about national policy change.
Today is World Suicide Prevention Day.
Today we want to celebrate Olly’s life and everything we have achieved two and a half years on at Olly’s Future.
Olly’s Future was formed out of a moment of great loss and sadness. But Olly’s spirit, warmth and compassion lives on through our work.
I’m so proud (and stunned!) to say that so far we’ve trained 822 people in suicide prevention (822?!), including staff at UCL and Christ’s Hospital, where Olly went to school.
Olly’s mum, Ann, alongside a team of other wonderful wonder women, is currently working in conjunction with the NHS and Mind on a project called Practise Hope. The project is working with 30 GP practises across the South East to improve GP support to young people who are suicidal or self-harming. Practise Hope aims to better equip doctors’ surgeries with stronger and clearer guidelines on how to respond to these vulnerable young people, who often turn to their GP first for support before confiding in anyone else.
Ann is also lobbying to change the NICE guidelines around prescribing anti-depressants – which doctors are currently able to do over the phone with no requirement of prior consultation with patients.
Two years ago, I came up with the idea of an annual Oliver Hare Altruism Award at UCL because I wanted to establish a legacy for Olly that captured his kindness and compassion – something lasting that would encourage others to be selfless in his spirit.
Anita Sangha, a Politics, Sociology and East European Studies student at UCL, is the winner of this year’s award. The staff member of the Students’ Union who nominated her said that in all her ten years of working in the role, Anita stood out because of her selflessness in the face of personal hardships.
Every year, I organise and host MENtal health open mic nights at UCL in collaboration with the Students’ Union where young male (and female!) students take to the stage to speak openly about their mental health. I always make a point to start by saying that, although the thought of coming on stage to speak about your mental health to a room full of strangers is pretty daunting, you should take comfort knowing that every single person in the room is here because they care, here because they want to listen to your story.
Students often perform spoken word, recite poems or just speak openly about what’s on their mind. This year, we celebrated the third anniversary of our MENtal health open mic night. For some, the event was the very first time they’d even tried to articulate feelings of anxiety and depression to their own minds, let alone to a room full of strangers. The courage and bravery of every single person who takes to the stage to share their intimate stories continues to blow me away. It reminds me that every one of us has a story to tell. And for young men especially, we need to tell them that it’s okay for them to share their stories, and I feel we have a duty to provide them with the platform to do so. And that’s what I hope our open mic nights do.
For those of you who’ve attended one of our open mic nights in the past, I’m sure you’re aware of just how powerful, moving and inspiring they are. For those of you that haven’t yet, watch this space and come along to our next one in March next year!
Two and a half years on, I’m proud to say that the stigma around mental health is slowly dissipating. More people than ever before are signing up to become Mental Health First Aiders. More people than ever before are feeling empowered to talk about their feelings – young men in particular. And we’re proud to be playing a small part in that.
Thank you so much to everyone who has joined us on our journey so far. And power to those of you who are struggling. You are not alone, and I hope we can support you as best we can.
Love and light, always,
Ayesha and the Olly’s Future Team
Read this story in the press here
On Saturday August 31st the South Downs were speckled with sparks of orange as more than 25 of Olly’s Future friends and family walked from Shoreham-by-Sea to Worthing in remembrance of Olly.
Over hills and along paths trodden many times by Olly, we arrived at his resting place – adorned by flowers and outlined with a halo of painted pebbles. He’s shining as bright as ever.
The 7 mile route took us along the Arun River, up to Lancing Ring, then Steep Down, Beggars Bush, Lychpole Hill and famous Cissbury Ring, which is an Iron Age Hill Ford and Stone Age flint mines. Chris, Olly’s dad, shared his knowledge of the history with us all along the way too.
Next years event will be on Saturday 5th September 2020 so make sure you have this date in the diary.
The Altruism Award was established in Olly’s memory for the very first time last year. The Award recognises UCL students who have demonstrated great commitment in supporting others. We know that a lot of UCL students do amazing selfless work on top of their academic studies that largely goes under the radar, so we established the Award to recognise and celebrate all their hard work.
We’re delighted to announce that Anita Sangha, a second year Politics, Sociology and East European Studies student, is the winner of this year’s Altruism Award!
Her nominee said:”While working at UCL for over 10 years in a student-facing role, I have had the pleasure of knowing many wonderful students. However, none have been so deserving of the Oliver Hare Altruism award as Anita.”
As well as having considerable caring responsibilities in her personal life, Anita has raised over £2,300 for The Brain Tumour Charity. She also founded a Cancer Research society at UCL, has campaigned on a range of issues she is passionate about and is heavily involved in the Students’ Union’s Zero Tolerance for Sexual Harassment campaign.
What stood out most for us when deciding on a winner was that as Anita noticed a change in her own wellbeing, she had the courage to take a step back and take time out for herself. Anita has clearly given so much time and energy into supporting others, but more than that, she stepped down when she needed to support herself.
Her nominee said: “Anita knows you cannot pour from an empty cup and she is concentrating on refilling hers. For this reason, she is an excellent role model.”
Huge congratulations to William Awdry, the winner of this year’s Oliver Hare Cup for the Best Musician of the Christ’s Hospital Marching Band! The Cup is presented annually by the Lord Mayor of London, who this year is Peter Estlin.
Olly was the Drum Major of the famous Christ’s Hospital marching band and led parades such as the Lord Mayor’s Show, Lord’s cricket ground and of course Beating Retreat on the last day of the school year.
Congratulations Anita and William, both very deserving winners!
On July 4th, a ground breaking initiative called ‘Practise Hope’ launched to help more young people get better support from their doctors’ surgeries. The 18-month pilot is a collaboration between Olly’s Future, Mind and Health Education England.
Thirty GP practices across Kent, Sussex and Surrey will be involved. They will be supported by three local Mind branches and each receive money to help implement new ways of working to bring about a culture change in primary care to better support distressed 10 to 25 year-olds. It is hoped the pioneering programme will be rolled out nationally after the pilot.
Of course at the heart of ‘Practise Hope’ is Olly, particularly because the Patients Care Lead for ‘Practise Hope’ is Ann (Olly’s Mum).
To find out more information about this project click here.
In May, two of Olly’s good friends Marcus and Otis ran over 240km from Worthing to Paris to raise money for Olly’s Future.
Donate to their Just Giving page here.
After two days in Camden, Olly’s Future have trained seven more people in ASIST including four of our own members: Ayesha, Caroline, Otis and Rory.
ASIST is an internationally recognised course that equips people with the skills to help those who are suicidal. The training was delivered by Ann alongside, Chukes, an ASIST trainer and former probational monk who also attended Christ’s Hospital in the seventies!
Our ‘newest’ Suicide First Aiders now join the two million trained world-wide. Together we are making a real difference.
In March, Olly’s Future held the second annual Love and Light party. This year we celebrated the incredible life of our dear friend, son and brother Olly sailing along the Thames past some of London’s most famous sites.
On Saturday night, almost 150 of Olly’s extended family and friends came together for a wonderful evening of live music and dancing with an epic view. There was also a wonderful raffle with plenty of money can’t buy prizes that raised over £1,000 alone in donations.
Thank you all those who came and made it such a wonderful night, remembering someone we clearly love so much. Oliver you live on forever in our hearts. Thanks to all those who were filmed for the documentary too.
Click here to see the full album from the night.
Be sure to save the date for next year’s party which is happening on Saturday 20st March 2020. More details to be revealed soon.
This year we celebrated the third anniversary of our mental health open mic night at UCL. Our courageous speakers spoke on topics including depression, anxiety, domestic violence and eating disorders.
The event was incredibly moving, and it was a real privilege to have the opportunity to hear people speak from the heart and share their intimate stories. We left the evening feeling inspired, empowered and hopeful for the future.
Pictured is Harees, a UCL Master’s student, who bravely opened up our open mic night and spoke about how he found a support system and an outlet through jiu-jitsu. Listen to Harees’ podcast, The Social Yeti, on iTunes and Spotify to hear about his discussions on topics such as mental health.
This was one of the most inspiring events I have ever been to in my life. A week on I am still so elated to know young men in particular, like those who spoke, have the courage to talk openly about their mental health and thoughts of suicide. That takes courage but by doing so they are breaking down all the myths and taboos that have prevented change and healing.Ann Feloy, after the event
A children’s book has just been published dedicated to Oliver and all money raised goes to Olly’s Future. It’s a beautiful book full of stories written by 120 Worthing primary school children with the opening sentence “It all began when the train stopped at Worthing.”
Ann had the enormous task of choosing the winner from all the entries. George Paoletti’s winning story about a dinosaur hunter called Jonathan is below.
Thanks to Dan, Lucy and Jonathan at Sawyers Estate Agents who came up with this enchanting idea. It has been so joyful to be involved. So far it’s raised over £375 for Olly’s Future.
For those of you who missed it, here is the BBC South Today clip featuring Olly’s Future on Thursday 13 September.
Ann spoke to Sean Killick about the work we are doing at Olly’s Future to equip people with the skills to help those who are feeling suicidal – so that Olly’s caring spirit lives on.